Aspie Mum and Nap Routines

Something that surprised me about becoming a mum is that I was less concerned with routines than other, non-aspie mums. (It’s one thing when you are Aspie and people stereotype you. It is a strange, fracturing experience when you stereotype yourself.) What I mean by not being concerned with routines is this: I never followed…

Motherhood Diaries #3: Breastfeeding a nine-month old

Early on, I noticed that the age milestones doubled in length each time. There is the newborn phase — six weeks. Then there is the end of the fourth trimester — three months.  Then there is the six month milestone. And the next milestone isn’t until 12 months. “That’s not right,” said TLO when I…

Meditating when you have a baby

In January 2017, I started meditating every single day. I started out doing five minutes a day and made my way up to ten minutes (1). My ritual was to meditate as soon as I got out of bed. When I got pregnant, the only change was that I had breakfast before meditating. And I…

Three ways having Asperger’s helps me to mother

When I was pregnant, our doula said the most lovely thing anyone has ever said to me about my Asperger’s. She said, “I think you having Asperger’s is going to be an advantage for you in this area.” I was touched, and I don’t think I will ever forget her words. Too often, discussions about…

International Women’s Day special: What about the men?

Note: This post is about the role of fathers in a heterosexual context, and is therefore inherently excluding of same-sex couples, and single mothers. I feel very nervous about posting this blog post. This International Women’s Day, I am celebrating my husband, known here as The Pilot, who is not a woman. Since I got…