The Circle of Milk

My breastfeeding journey started when I was a child. When I was four, my mother gave birth to my younger sister, and breastfed her until she was one. My mother has always been an advocate for breastfeeding, and was never shy about breastfeeding in front of anyone, in any setting. My first memory of seeing…

Word of the day: Compassion

I have been having a hard time lately, struggling to cope with the everyday demands of my life. I haven’t felt like myself, as a person or as a mother. I have been snapping at my husband and son. That’s not who I am. I resolved to enjoy Finley more, to take time to have special…

Aspie Mum and Nap Routines

Something that surprised me about becoming a mum is that I was less concerned with routines than other, non-aspie mums. (It’s one thing when you are Aspie and people stereotype you. It is a strange, fracturing experience when you stereotype yourself.) What I mean by not being concerned with routines is this: I never followed…

The Nature of Naptime

There is a constant attentiveness involved with being a mother. Annabel Crabbe, when attempting to describe what kind of “work” is involved in mothering, writes about lying on the couch reading a book while the kids play. She is not doing any childcare “work” in that moment. But she also can’t nip down to the…

Three ways having Asperger’s helps me to mother

When I was pregnant, our doula said the most lovely thing anyone has ever said to me about my Asperger’s. She said, “I think you having Asperger’s is going to be an advantage for you in this area.” I was touched, and I don’t think I will ever forget her words. Too often, discussions about…