Nothing Could Have Prepared Me

Thoughts on becoming a mother, written when our son was six days old. I think we as Australians might be a little bit negative. As soon as people know you are pregnant, people are eager to tell you how your life is about to change forever. And not in a good way. I was at…

Three ways having Asperger’s helps me to mother

When I was pregnant, our doula said the most lovely thing anyone has ever said to me about my Asperger’s. She said, “I think you having Asperger’s is going to be an advantage for you in this area.” I was touched, and I don’t think I will ever forget her words. Too often, discussions about…

50-word book reviews from 2017 – Part One

January Mother Zen – Jacinta Tynan, non-fiction, 3/5 This book frustrated me because it was too long and had too much unacknowledged privilege. But it stuck with me and I still think about it frequently. It is written by a woman who learns to meditate when she is pregnant, but it is all about her…

Why I’m not actually high-functioning

I am so tired of people telling me I’m high-functioning. It’s not a useful label. It’s problematic; like the phrase “mild autism” in the above quote, it frames an autistic/Aspie person’s experience in terms of how hard it is for other people to cope with him or her, rather than how hard it is for…

#Solidarity

My parents are visiting me in Canberra! Muslim women wearing hijabis have been harassed on the street! These two statements are not connected, but they are in this picture. Especially since this terrorism drama has been going on, ignorant people who tar all people who call themselves Muslim with the same brush have been giving…