On Adulting

“Adulting is hard,” Matt sighed as we whizzed through the Wednesday evening jobs. Wednesday nights are always busy, with a daycare bag to unpack and repack as well as the usual evening jobs, but every second Wednesday we also have to tidy up for the cleaner to come on Thursday morning(1). It’s true, adulting is…

Aspie Mum and Nap Routines

Something that surprised me about becoming a mum is that I was less concerned with routines than other, non-aspie mums. (It’s one thing when you are Aspie and people stereotype you. It is a strange, fracturing experience when you stereotype yourself.) What I mean by not being concerned with routines is this: I never followed…

My Birth Preferences

Before I was pregnant, I had heard of “birth plans”. Even though I knew very little about childbirth, the concept sounded to me like an oxymoron. How can you plan something so notoriously unpredictable? I heard many stories of women who made meticulously detailed birth plans and then ended up traumatised when the childbirth experience…

Nothing Could Have Prepared Me

Thoughts on becoming a mother, written when our son was six days old. I think we as Australians might be a little bit negative. As soon as people know you are pregnant, people are eager to tell you how your life is about to change forever. And not in a good way. I was at…

Three ways having Asperger’s helps me to mother

When I was pregnant, our doula said the most lovely thing anyone has ever said to me about my Asperger’s. She said, “I think you having Asperger’s is going to be an advantage for you in this area.” I was touched, and I don’t think I will ever forget her words. Too often, discussions about…