Aspie Mum and Nap Routines

Something that surprised me about becoming a mum is that I was less concerned with routines than other, non-aspie mums. (It’s one thing when you are Aspie and people stereotype you. It is a strange, fracturing experience when you stereotype yourself.) What I mean by not being concerned with routines is this: I never followed…

My Birth Preferences

Before I was pregnant, I had heard of “birth plans”. Even though I knew very little about childbirth, the concept sounded to me like an oxymoron. How can you plan something so notoriously unpredictable? I heard many stories of women who made meticulously detailed birth plans and then ended up traumatised when the childbirth experience…

Nothing Could Have Prepared Me

Thoughts on becoming a mother, written when our son was six days old. I think we as Australians might be a little bit negative. As soon as people know you are pregnant, people are eager to tell you how your life is about to change forever. And not in a good way. I was at…

Three ways having Asperger’s helps me to mother

When I was pregnant, our doula said the most lovely thing anyone has ever said to me about my Asperger’s. She said, “I think you having Asperger’s is going to be an advantage for you in this area.” I was touched, and I don’t think I will ever forget her words. Too often, discussions about…

50-word book reviews from 2017 – Part One

January Mother Zen – Jacinta Tynan, non-fiction, 3/5 This book frustrated me because it was too long and had too much unacknowledged privilege. But it stuck with me and I still think about it frequently. It is written by a woman who learns to meditate when she is pregnant, but it is all about her…