Nothing Could Have Prepared Me

Thoughts on becoming a mother, written when our son was six days old. I think we as Australians might be a little bit negative. As soon as people know you are pregnant, people are eager to tell you how your life is about to change forever. And not in a good way. I was at…

Three ways having Asperger’s helps me to mother

When I was pregnant, our doula said the most lovely thing anyone has ever said to me about my Asperger’s. She said, “I think you having Asperger’s is going to be an advantage for you in this area.” I was touched, and I don’t think I will ever forget her words. Too often, discussions about…

International Women’s Day special: What about the men?

Note: This post is about the role of fathers in a heterosexual context, and is therefore inherently excluding of same-sex couples, and single mothers. I feel very nervous about posting this blog post. This International Women’s Day, I am celebrating my husband, known here as The Pilot, who is not a woman. Since I got…

The Universe Inside Me

My contemplation of the universe inside me started with the kicking. As my baby moved around inside me, not regarding my personal comfort, I realised that she* doesn’t know who I am. I know that there is a baby inside me, but the baby doesn’t know that I am a person encasing her. The womb…