Pregnancy Rituals: The Hospital Bag

Search “Hospital bag” in YouTube and you will find dozens of videos of pregnant women showing you what they are taking to the hospital for when they give birth. Google it and you will find lots of advice on what to put in your hospital bag. There are even online shops selling you hospital bags…

Another Transition

In my previous blog post on liminality I wrote about a phase of labour called transition. It is when the body goes from the opening up stage to the pushing stage. As I wrote in that blog post, many women experience this as the most intense part of labour. Chemically, it is marked by a…

Writing Tip #1: Let yourself write

Writing Skill Tip #1: Let yourself write, don’t make yourself write I once listened to a podcast in which Elizabeth Gilbert interviewed Brene Brown. Brene Brown dropped some wisdom which has stayed with me: “What is going to keep you going on day 2 is not discipline, but self-compassion”. She went on to explain this.…

Disappearing into Liminality

To start with, a mini-lecture on anthropology. “Liminality” is a concept used in ceremonial contexts*. It refers to an inbetweenness. For example, in a graduation ceremony, the “graduands” are in liminal space. They are no longer students and they are not yet graduates. Liminality is often considered dangerous or polluting, as well as vulnerable, so…

The Meditation Bell

Content warning: Not recommended for women who are struggling with infertility. Pregnant women are smug. Pregnant women are obsessed with pregnancy and it’s all they can talk about. Pregnant women are self-absorbed. All of these things are true and yet now I am seeing it from the inside everything makes so much more sense. I…

The Rate of Growth

Soon after I found out I was pregnant, I got frustrated at how far away the due date was. So far it seemed impossible that I had to wait that long. In her book Expecting: The Inner Life of Pregnancy, Chitra Ramaswamy writes about how pregnancy is a process so long that you actually can’t…